Guys, Handbags and Relationships

I went to a girls' discussion group today with a couple of girls from my church. Our main topic strayed from the proposed one. But it was all good…because we talked about love relationship. Hahaha…

I think that when friends meet up with each other we often talk about this. One of the things that triggered the conversation was the fact that one of my friends is so in love. She talked about an ex who she discovered to be really caring and accept her as who she is. As she talked about him, her face lightened up and we could clearly see that she was so in love.

We also discussed how some people remain single and some people discover their true soul mates in a young age. How some people are given the gift of celibacy because they need to fulfill a purpose in their lives. She told us about her ex High School principal who remains single just to really concentrate on her job and was doing well on her occupation.

It got me thinking. Well… maybe there is a spark of something similar to envy but not so much like it. It is more like a longing to be in her position. Because to me personally, finding the right boyfriend is like finding the perfect designer bag.

I know that designer bags are not worth the money sometimes or so, many people say. But the thing is, there are some good things about them. I know that they are expensive but on the other hand, they are exclusive because there can only be tens of people who own the bags. They have better quality as well. Although the design isn’t always as good as some people claim it to be.

You can get a fake designer bag from EBay or other places mainly run by Asians but the thing is. A fake is a fake. It’s not as good as the real thing. It doesn’t have the same feel, the same leather and it is deceitful.

Some people say why waste money on a bag that noone can tell its authenticity while there are so many look alike around?

Well.. Why settle for less if you can get the best, if you think that you deserve it and if you know you can get it?

You can get a secondhand bag or you can get a new bag.

You can get a guy just because you want a boyfriend or you can get someone who will really love you for what you are.

As for me, I am looking for the best to settle for. I don’t care if I have to work hard and pay a lot of money to get the bag I really want even though people might call me a dumb and superficial for spending a lot of money on a bag.

I look for quality and exclusiveness when I spend big dollars on a bag. Part of a reason why I buy some designer bags is that’s because I don’t want something that everyone uses or something that has been used by many.

I’m not saying that I want a guy who has never had a girlfriend before when I make a relation between guys and handbags. I’m simply saying that I want an exclusive love and romantic attention from a boyfriend.

I don’t ask him to spend 24 hours on me because he is not my husband and he has his own life. But I believe in commitment and exclusiveness in a relationship.

I don’t want a guy who goes out with me and still look for another better partner at the same time. To me, once you are with someone, you are bound to be committed with that person while you are in a relationship with that person.

I am sick and tired of guys who chase girls because the sake of chasing girls. Guys who approach girls to fulfill their loneliness and don’t even think about the consequences that they do to the girls once they don’t feel lonely anymore.

I am sick and tired of guys who try to use your kindness and your affection towards him by doing things for him. There are guys who are like that. Guys who once know that you like him will get you to do things for him.

I dislike guys who tell me to change my hair, my personality, the way I eat, the way I dress and all the things that make me. There are guys who want me to be committed and always be there for him but won’t do the same. One word: SELFISHNESS.

It’s like… I take a guy’s weaknesses and bad points as they are so why can’t they do the same?

You know, I don’t ask for someone who will love me with 100 percent more than I love that person. Nor do I ask for someone whose love far surpasses mine. I guess that I and all the other girls and guys in the world ask for someone who will at least give back the same amount of commitment and investment as their partners.

I just want that person to like me as who I am and to take my weaknesses and strength as the total package.

We are all imperfect humans after all.

Ps. I don’t want to sound sexist so maybe this goes from a guy’s point of view as well :p